Yes, here comes another New Year’s Resolution blog for you to read. Mine is different, though 😉
Last year I wrote an article, ‘Jamie’s New Year Memo on Achieving Your Goals’. To avoid you the pain of reading another article, I’ll summarise what I set out to achieve:
Firstly, I encouraged people to write a personal mission statement, with mine being:
“It’s my mission to inform others how they can take responsibility into their hands for their health, happiness and wellbeing. I commit to leading by example, hoping to empower others to do the same. I want to maintain my integrity by being considerate and kind along the way, living by a watertight moral code.”
I haven’t read that in some time, until now. It’s really pleasing to see that I have internalised this mission statement as this has been my defacto stance all year. The biggest shift was moving from highly questionable morals to someone who puts that before anything. I am not perfect, and I haven’t been, but I have made a huge jump in that respect.
The goals I set were:
- Launch a podcast
- Launch an e-store
- Be in fantastic shape
- Move abroad
- Put on a sellout conference
- Learn how to instil changes in others
- Expand my education
- Understand my biology
- Understand my mind
I am pretty pleased with how this turned out. I didn’t launch an e-store, but this was because I realised selling supplements is a bit of a bogus scam. What our bodies need is not pills and potions but nature. I could have made a lot of money selling ‘biohacking supplements/nootropics’, but once I began to understand what is optimal for health, I was not prepared to cash in on half truths.
I also didn’t move abroad. However, this year I have loved England for what must be the first time in a decade. Getting a grip on my mindset unlocked a lot of doors, allowing me to enjoy whichever location I was in. I still have ambitions to be abroad, for several strategic reasons, and I am working on a long term plan for this. Stay tuned.
The meat and potatoes of this article
Now that I’ve successfully massaged my ego, I wanted to get to my new idea for setting goals. Tangible goals can be important, and they certainly play a role. However, 99% of us set these long list of goals, only to be set up for failure at a later date (specifically, by February!).
I wanted to move away from this idea. Tangible goals can be set throughout the year and do not deserve the powerful focus the turning of a new year brings. Instead, I wanted to shift to how you want to FEEL. How do you want to perceive yourself? What message do you want to give out to people?
Perhaps in 2017 you want to:
- Feel energised
- Feel love
- Feel joy and happiness
- Be passionate about your work
- Feel connected
- Have integrity
- Be free
I guess last year I secretly wanted to feel freedom from the anger that I had carried with me for a quarter of a decade. Rather than focus on the left brain, tangible goals, I think working on a personal mission statement and concentrating on how you want to feel is more productive.
Tangible goals in themselves can be extremely limiting. What happens if you did achieve your goal? Do you stop trying to improve? By setting something more abstract (abstract in the eyes of Western society) goals, you are creating a personal ethos/code to live by. This ethos will drive and dictate every decision you make. It will influence all your goals, not just one.
So, how do you want to feel in 2017? I want to feel like a facilitator. I want to help catalyse change in others. I want to feel like my sole purpose to be on this planet is to help others create the change they want and need. If I remember this, this will affect every decision or goal in 2017.
It’ll dictate what business I do. It’ll dictate the social circle I have around me. It’ll dictate who I choose to love. It’ll dictate how I spend my downtime. It’ll dictate the language I choose to speak with. It’ll dictate where I go on holiday. It’ll dictate where I give presentations. The list is endless.
As you can see, from choosing this one mission statement you want to build your identity around, you get a cascade of other positive intentions. Which is the opposite to setting lots and lots of tangible goals that do not lead to anywhere in the long run.
Anyway, this a new theory I have mulled on over the past few months. I believe it is more effective to bring about change. It also requires a lot less effort. It brings about less stress. It’s simple
So, in 2017 my sole focus is to be a facilitator. What’s yours?
PS – Thank You
Thank you all for being part of an amazing year. It has been phenomenal. I have met some truly incredible people, many of whom I am privileged to now call a friend. Thank you for helping to facilitate change in my life. I hope I can do the same in others.